"Dear Stop It Now! Helpline"

Prevention Webinars for Protective and Caring Adults

Upcoming Webinar 

Webinar 6
Dear Stop It Now! Helpline... I'm attracted to children. Part 2: What Kind of Help Should I look for?
Thursday, June 28, 2018
3pm - 4pm ET
Audience: General, Beginning/Intermediate Professional
Registration:  Click here 
 Our last webinar, “Dear Stop It Now! Helpline, I’m attracted to children” shared the voices and experiences of adults recognizing their own unwanted sexual attraction to children helping us learn more about what individuals with unwanted attractions are experiencing and what they are asking for in terms of support, compassion and hope. In part two of this webinar,  we’ll explore how adults who are committed to living harm-free lives can find help and support to manage their attractions and lead healthy, fulfilling lives.  We’ll discuss resources and services to support minor-attracted adults, and explore strategies in finding informed and respectful support. 

Joining Stop It Now! will be guest experts, Candice Christiansen, LCMHC, CSAT and Meg Martinez-Dettamanti, LACMHC  - from both Namaste Center for Healing in Utah and The Prevention Project™ Utah, who will share from their experience providing treatment and support to those with problematic sexual behaviors.  Guest expert's biographies

About this webinar series

Stop It Now! is bringing its expertise and resources from our Helpline and Circles of Safety trainings to the privacy and comfort of your own home or office. Introducing our Circles of Safety Prevention Webinar Series: "Dear Stop It Now! Helpline"

In a uniquely intimate training format, Stop It Now! brings the conversations from our specialized Helpline to this webinar training series - sharing the questions concerned adults have about keeping children safe from sexual harm, along with our Helpline’s calm, empowering and educational responses.

Our Helpline speaks to adults from around the globe who are concerned about every aspect of child sexual abuse and prevention. We hear from parents wondering about the sexual behaviors of their children. Concerned members of communities and families write to us asking how to respond to warning signs. Adults seeking help regarding their own urges and behaviors—often feeling like there is nowhere else to turn—seek our guidance. Adult survivors find solace and support through our intimate knowledge of their experiences.

What the Stop It Now! Helpline hears from these diverse and courageous voices forms the foundation of what we know about the real, multi-dimensional challenges that adults face in trying to keep children safe. Our compassionate and expert voices have helped empower thousands of callers over the last 22 years to take meaningful and realistic steps to protect children in their lives.

Inspired by the wisdom of our Helpline, the "Dear Stop It Now! Helpline" Training series emphasizes the critical importance of understanding concerning and illegal behaviors along a spectrum of safety, rather than only in black-and-white terms. Participants often say that the most illuminating aspects of our trainings are when they can draw from their own real-life experiences to prepare them to respond to future situations. Conversations that revolve around these real situations can be thorny and challenging, but can also ultimately be clarifying and deeply empowering.

Using actual Helpline calls and letters, each interactive webinar in this series will explore the themes surrounding questions about children’s sexual health and sexual behaviors, adult’s sexual behaviors around children, vulnerable environments and planning for safety. The practical information, tools and resources shared by the Helpline in response to these calls and letters will be shared and discussed.

Webinars are available for a voluntary fee of $10.00 (U.S.). No one will be turned away for inability to pay but to help us keep our materials and services available and accessible to all, please consider supporting Stop It Now! with this voluntary fee.

Past Webinars:

Webinar 5
Dear Stop It Now! Helpline... I'm attracted to children. 
Thursday, April 26, 2018
3pm - 4pm ET
Audience: General, Beginning/Intermediate Professional
 This April, as part of child abuse prevention and sexual assault awareness month, we’re bringing you the questions and concerns we hear from adults worried about their own sexual thoughts and feelings about children. Adults who are at-risk can and do reach out for help before a child is harmed, and they are a key voice in prevention. Understanding the questions they have about getting help for themselves – before they act on the concerning thoughts and feelings they may have – helps us understand more about what kinds of support and resources need to be offered to plan for safety for all and in all environments. 

Join Stop It Now! and guest experts, Dr. Jill Levenson, Professor of Social Work at Barry University in Miami, FL. and a licensed clinical social worker with people who have abused and Wayne Bowers, Executive Director of Cure-Sort and author of “Wayne’s Story”, a Stop It Now! story of hope. Guest expert's biographies

Webinar 4
Dear Stop It Now! Helpline... Am I an abuser because of my sexual behaviors as a kid?
February 28, 2018
1pm - 2pm ET
Audience: General, Beginning Professional 
Am I an abuser? These are the words we’ve heard from many concerned adults who are reflecting on their own sexual interactions with other kids when they themselves were children. They share feeling guilty, ashamed and confused; and want to know if their own actions are part of normal childhood exploration or if they point to something more harmful or even abusive? And they want to know if they are a risk to children now, and what they can do to be a responsible adult.  This webinar will share letters from real people worried about their own sexual behaviors with other children when they were still youths themselves. We’ll talk about what’s normal and healthy, debunk some myths around children’s sexual behaviors, explore some of the root causes of why children engage in inappropriate sexual play, and talk about meaningful action steps these adults can take now. 

Webinar 3
Dear Stop It Now! Helpline... My son kissed his younger sister
December 6, 2017 
1pm – 2pm ET
How does a parent or caregiver know when a child’s natural curiosity about sex and normal exploratory behavior becomes more of a warning sign? Is it “normal” for a brother to experiment sexually with his younger sister? What should parents do when they find out that one of their children has initiated a sexual behavior with a younger sibling? In this webinar, sharing a couple of letters from parents who are concerned about their older child sexually touching a younger child, we’ll share some action steps and safety planning ideas to help caregivers respond to their children’s sexual behavior when they’re experimenting with their brother or sister. We'll also address some of the challenges for adults to talk with children about sexuality, and offer some resources to help conversations with children be comfortable, informative and clear. 

Webinar 2
Dear Stop It Now! Helpline - I'm worried my partner is a pedophile 
October 11, 2017
3pm – 4pm ET
There are few things that can be as worrisome as wondering if your partner could be at-risk to sexually abuse children, or worse, discovering evidence that abuse has already happened. This webinar features a letter from a woman who is concerned about warning signs she’s seen in her boyfriend’s internet use, and is wondering if he is a pedophile. We will share our  Helpline’s response to her letter as well as review warning signs in adult’s behaviors that could mean they are at-risk to harm a child and share tips on how to have caring and productive conversations. We’ll also offer steps and resources to consider when there are warning signs that children are at-risk of abuse or if there is abuse already occurring through the online viewing of illegal child sexual abuse imagery. 

Webinar 1
Dear Stop It Now! Helpline – Is my child safe online?
Date: July 26, 2017
Time: 12pm – 1pm ET
Description: Children’s behavior online worries parents and educators. We’ll share Helpline questions from a parent concerned about her pre-teen daughter’s safety online because strangers are contacting her and from a parent who is concerned about his young son’s safety through use of interactive gaming. Exploring our Helpline’s response to these parents, we’ll talk about preventing specific online risks through a prevention-focused lens, learning about risks and prevention tasks for specific developmental ages. Concepts and practices associated with privacy, social media, gaming and parental controls will be discussed. Handouts will be provided.